Domestic violence should not happen to anybody, ever. Maybe you have lived with abuse, maybe it happened just once; maybe you work or live next to someone who is being abused right now. There is help.
New Mexico courts will enter an Order of Protecting to protect an adult or child has been or is in imminent danger of being a victim of violence. These protection orders usually prohibit the named defendant (the violence perpetrator) from making any contact with the named protected person(s) or from even coming within a specified distance of the protected person(s). Anyone breaking the terms of a protection order faces criminal arrest and prosecution.
Unfortunately, many family law disputes involve violence or the threat of violence, necessitating protection orders. The Law Office of Clifton L. Davidson, LLC is experienced at getting their clients the protection from violence they need with orders of protection.
The terms of personal protection orders can be drafted to suit the needs of individual cases. For example, sometimes special provisions need to be made to allow for visitation with children and exchanges of children.
Tactics used by abusers to assert their dominance and power
- Dominance –They will make decisions for you and the family, tell you what to do, and expect you to obey without question.
- Humiliation – An abuser will do everything he or she can to make you feel bad about yourself or defective in some way. Insults, name-calling, shaming, and public put-downs are all weapons of abuse designed to erode your self-esteem and make you feel powerless.
- Isolation –He or she may keep you from seeing family or friends, or even prevent you from going to work or school.
- Threats –Your abuser may threaten to hurt or kill you, your children, other family members, or even pets. He or she may also threaten to commit suicide, file false charges against you, or report you to child services.
- Intimidation – Your abuser may use a variety of intimidation tactics designed to scare you into submission. The clear message is that if you don’t obey, there will be violent consequences.
- Denial and blame – Abusers are very good at making excuses for the inexcusable. They will blame their abusive and violent behavior on a bad childhood, a bad day, and even on the victims of their abuse. He or she will commonly shift the responsibility on to you: Somehow, his or her violent and abusive behavior is your fault.
If you are afraid of someone, or are afraid for your children, contact the Law Office of Clifton L. Davidson, LLC today and take some positive steps to protect yourself and your family.
You can also visit this website for New Mexico Domestic Violence Advocates & Support: http://www.aardvarc.org/dv/states/nmdv.shtml